Is It Lying If I'm Just Not Telling The Truth?

Ok, before I give you my take on the Title/Topic of this post let me give you the story that brought forth the inspiration for this alleged post.


Friday night I was set up on a blind date. The date was set up through my friend BLTC (Better Living Through Chemistry) , by his girlfriend BAC (Blonde Actress Chick). The motives behind the date were simple, at BLTC's B-day party BAC and I had talked about how when it comes to dating intelligence, for me, far out weighs any trait. I told her that if a girl is stupid she might as well have a hunch and an eye patch (no offence to lumpy pirates, they need love too.) BAC told me about her best friend Megan (sorry, no clever initials on this one), Megan always complain that guys are always after her looks and can never keep up with her intellectually. BLTC later chimed in that Megan was cuter than BAC and trailed off into his own threesome plans. So with that ringing endorsement I decided to go for it. Set up on a blind date with your friends, girlfriends, best friend, what could go wrong?

Friday night steamrolls it's way in and I arrive to BLTC house, I arrive in the nick of time to sit on his couch and watch TV for half an hour. Now running late we drive like the damned to pick up BAC, who is still putting on her makeup. Later still we pick up Megan, now Megan is cute, but not cuter than BAC, in fact, she's quite average. While there's nothing wrong with average, it brings to mind the question of "what else was exaggerated?"

the plan for the evening was a movie and dinner, while it was quite fun to see the Shining on the big screen again, unfortunately, a 3 hour plus movie is not conducive to a date. Upon reaching our seats we all sit down and the date chatter begins. Everything is going well, I make her laugh a little, she's mildly interesting. Then the topic turns to the subject of work.

Exile- so what do you do?
Megan- I teach.
Exile- humans?
Megan- sixth graders.
Exile- so not humans.
Megan- *she chuckles* some of them
Exile- that must be tough
Megan- how so?
Exile- being trapped in a room full of children
Megan- oh *looking at Exile with confusion* So what do you do.
Exile- I work for the county, I work at {blah blah} assigning therapists to minors
Megan- oh wow, you must really like kids.
Exile- um, not exactly
Megan- *more confusion* what do you mean? You work with kids.
Exile- I work with their paperwork, I'm not a big fan of children *shivers at the thought*
Megan- I see...

The date ends there, but it continues on for nearly six hours. The rest of the night consists of the cold shoulder and patronizing conversation. She's now bored and disappointed with me, and we hadn't even had sex (hehehe, ah... Sad...).

Finally, back at her place, we're all concealed in the living room, no movie, no bar with crappy food, nothing but conversation. it turns out talking is very difficult to do when the other person has no interest in talking to you. Things did perk up, how ever as our hostess decided to start doing lines off the kitchen counter. While BLTC and BAC ran to the kitchen like a starving dogs to a can opener I hung back (I'm just not down with the nose candy).

With every line the trio did Megan began to warm up to me, I naturally warmed up to the book of bunny suicides on the coffee table.

I <3>It Lying If I'm Just Not Telling The Truth?
The subject of this conundrum is that of the human spawn often referred to as children and my feelings toward them.

Now it's pretty obvious that I don't like kids, but if I don't say that I don't' like them, I can come across with an air of indifference (it's a combination of my job and lack of enthusiasm for them.) Megan took a great deal of offence to my attitude most likely because she intends to be impregnated, unfortunately I was mainly interested on just having a nice date that night.

So if I had simply not said I hate children (or anything regarding children), I would have most likely had a very palatable date.

This then leads me to the thought that maybe I should use a "templated" answer to the subject. By saying "actually I can't have children, and I'd prefer not to talk about it," I could get away Scott free. This is true because I can't stomach the thought of having children, and I don't really want to talk about it (bleck!)



So now I ask, is it ok to do this? Thoughts?



Exile

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